It’s fine to experiment it’s a big part of finding out who you are.” I doubt I’d do it again as that would mean being unfaithful, but I consider myself straight. The friend was finding his feet with his sexuality and James was the willing guinea pig – as long as nobody found out – but if you’re encouraging a gay man to perform fellatio on you, aren’t you gay? “I’ve never been with a man since and I’m happily married now. You could argue that there was an element of exploitation to James’s relationship with his mate. But I didn’t feel guilty and I think he was cool with it.” I always made it clear we weren’t in a relationship and that nobody should know. “I didn’t have a girlfriend yet and my mate was just discovering his sexuality and wanted to try. “I wasn’t as interested in his cock as he was in mine, but I think we both got something out of it.” If there’s one thing hormone-frazzled 17-year-old boys aren’t getting anywhere near enough of as they want, it’s oral sex. “Me and my mate would fool around but mainly he would do it to me,” he explains. James, 28, says he regularly got blowjobs from a gay pal in his teens, but he doesn’t consider himself gay.
